Have you been hearing this phrase as much as I have? “I don’t have my shit together,” “When I get my shit together, then I’ll….” Who WANTS their shit to be together anyway? What does that even mean?
Read moreReduce unnecessary suffering
When I first meet with clients, I try to convey the overall goal of reducing unnecessary suffering. We often don’t realize how much suffering we can address by asking the right questions.
Here are the main areas that come up as starting points to begin to feel relief and see change.
Read more3 Cardinal Rules of Communication in Relationships
cardinal-rule. Noun. (plural cardinal rules) A fundamental rule, upon which other matters hinge.
Communication is KEY for the success of any relationship, especially the one with your partner. Many couples avoid conflict altogether. This is not helpful nor effective because it does not lead to fulfillment or satisfaction. It usually becomes a breeding ground for resentment, anger, and tension.
Read moreHow to support people when you don't know what to say
Having a support system when experiencing mental health symptoms is directly related to recovery; there are numerous research studies to support this.
However, many clients with whom I work do not have adequate supports, and as a result, end up feeling extremely alone and isolated. Like they are the only ones experiencing the difficulty getting up and moving in the morning, random bouts of anxiety during the day that seem to come out of nowhere, the insomnia when all that’s needed is sleep… and the list goes on.
While awareness about mental health is increasing, there is still a stigma for individuals to be honest with friends and family about their true struggles. People fear being dismissed, minimized, judged, or even ignored.
Read moreRed Light | Green Light: Setting Clearer Boundaries
When it comes to thinking, therapists usually try to dissuade from black and white thinking, as it is problematic. However, when it comes to boundaries, clarity is KEY.
Read moreNew Year. You are Enough.
You don't have to jump on the resolution bandwagon because it's January. You are enough, as is. You have permission to not change a thing.
Read moreI’ll just die here before I inconvenience you. How my story became my mission
It’s ok. I’ll just die here before I inconvenience you. That was the way I was treating myself before I accepted my life-threatening peanut allergy.
Read moreThe biggest mistake perfectionists make in their relationships
Here's the pattern: I see many perfectionists; people who work hard, give a lot to others, and don't ask for a lot in return. They may not self identify as a perfectionist, but there is fear of failure or disappointing others under the surface which looks like perfectionism from above. When they get to my office, they are weary and worn out. They cannot understand why they don't get anything back from the people to whom they're giving. So they continue to give, do, be, and turn themselves inside out to try to get something back.
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